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If you want to make him want you back, you are going to have to tap into his pain. He is going to have to feel the loss of you. He needs to miss you. For a man to want you back, he has to feel it on an emotional level. I don’t mean on your emotional level, I mean his. If you want to get him back, you gonna have to be tough and you will need patience.
If you have just been dumped, your emotional level is over the top. You are wondering: What did you do? What is he thinking? I wish I could just make him understand how I feel. These are your instincts, ignore them. Acting on these emotions will only push him away. It certainly won’t tap into his pain or cause him to miss you.
The only way to get him back is to go in no contact. I know it’s torture, but you have to think about long term satisfaction, not instant gratification. You have to remove yourself from his life. By keeping contact, you ease his transition. He never really experiences the loss.
Next thing you know, you have helped right into the arms of the next woman. He can still have you in his life, he doesn’t have to lose you completely if you keep in touch. He doesn’t feel the loss so he feels no pain. He will go out looking again, sooner than you think if he dumped you.
Have you ever been the one who did the heart breaking, the dumper? Have you had the person you dumped continue to contact you? Maybe he didn’t want to accept that it was over. When he kept contacting you how did you view him. Chances are you saw him as a bit pathetic. It just reinforced why you broke up with him to start with.
That is why you can’t contact him. You don’t want to seem pathetic and you don’t want his last memory of you as a love sick school girl. It just sad, and kills his attraction. You don’t want him to feel sad for you or any pity. You want him to tap into pain, but not that kind of pain.
By not contacting him, he starts to miss you. If you have been together relatively a long time, this is sure to happen, providing you didn’t cause him huge drama. By no contact, I am not talking a few days. I am talking until he contacts you, even if that is 1 or 2 months down the road. Almost all men contact the ex after a break up, it’s a fact. It’s just a matter of when.
Another thing that happens since he no longer has access to your life, he is going to start wondering what you are doing. Oh a man’s imagination may turn out to be your best weapon to make him want you back.
write by Waldo