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The fact that you are still together is always a good sign – even if you are not exactly best inclined towards one another. You consider splitting up in your mind and your heart makes a somersault. This means you are still in love with her and the best thing to do at the moment is work on the relationship, which is not a hard task at all. Go through the following 7 simple steps and your love will be rekindled for one another once again:
1. Tell her you love her – start with that statement and in the same breath tell her that you need to know why there is distance growing in between. If you do it the right way – which is very important, i.e. loaded with feelings – she would open up and tell you what is on her heart.
2. Listen to her – when she starts telling you about what she finds difficult in the relationship, listen. Do not interrupt, do not defend yourself and definitely do not argue with her. Just listen to what she wants from you, what hurt her, where she feels you have failed her.
3. Agree to make amendments – I am sure that you too have expectations and disappointments and you too are dying to share these with her; but this is not the right time. This is the time when you reassure her that your highest most priority is her happiness and therefore you agree to make amendments according to whatever she wants.
4. Honor your commitment – act upon your promise and do all that you promised her. Remember, you need not change yourself 100% to please her; this is not what is advised here. You need to change in the way you look at things; try seeing it from her point of her perspective and understand her frustrations.
5. Ask her to help you – tell her you are committed to work at this relationship and expect that she wants that too. Tell her to always let you know what she needs most often so you could act on her wishes.
6. Share responsibility with her – whether she works outside her home or not, she would always need a hand to run the house smoothly. Lend that hand happily and willingly. Share it all; spoil her sometimes by giving her the day off when you would do it all.
7. Renew your passion for one another – sex is a superb way to show you love; this is why it is known as ‘making love’.
write by Mackenzie St Germain