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As you are sitting there now, reading these words, arranged together to give you that insight that you want, imagine what it would be like if you had incredible social power. If you had that magnetism that caused everybody to turn and look when you walked into a room. You could stand there, knowing that all the people looking at you were hoping that you would choose them to talk to. That you would spend your precious time exchanging words with them, which of course which would naturally and automatically increase their pleasure and happiness, causing those around you to crave your presence even more.
Sound far-fetched? Well it’s not. Not really. It does take some specific practice. And a little bit of time. But as surely as you can increase the size of your biceps by doing curls a few times a week, you can increase you charisma with some simple, specific exercises. One of the widest misconceptions about social skills is that they are inborn. That some people have them, and some people don’t. Luckily for you, that isn’t true. You can build them up just a surely as you can develop those six pack abs that you have hidden under your shirt.
One of my passions is self-improvement, and self-actualization. And one of the most widely enjoyed topics on my blob is how to easily develop charisma and superb social skills. I’ve written many articles regarding these, as I’ve been an explorer of the mind for many years. One of the greatest discoveries of human potential is that almost ANYTHING can be improved through specific practice and consistent application of certain exercises. Here you’ll learn how to do social “exercises” that will vastly improve your “charisma’ muscle.
One of the secrets of charisma is a mindset and a belief that you have within you everything you need. You enter into all social situations completely devoid of any hidden needs or secret agendas. It is enough for you to engage in friendly conversation aimed at making others feel more empowered and enlightened. When you have this quality, people will sense it immediately before they even speak to you, and will crave your attention. The reason for this is that most people walk around with several unmet needs, which can come across as fears, hidden agendas, and neediness. Nobody likes to speak with somebody when they sense that the other person “wants something” from them, be it money, affection or whatever.
But when YOU move through the world, free from any agenda and desire to get your needs met by others, you will come across as different, powerful, and incredibly charismatic. How do you develop this trait? By simple practice. The way to do this is to consciously remember to find out one cool thing about the person you are speaking with, and then let them know that you appreciate that about them. Once you find out something cool about them, and you let them know in no uncertain terms that you appreciate that about them, politely leave the conversation. Remember, this is like doing curls for your charisma muscle. Each time you do this, interact, find something cool, appreciate it, and leave, give yourself one point. The more points you build up over time, the more charismatic you will become. Of course, if you start to talk about yourself, you lose points.
If you think of this as exercise, and set goals for yourself, like three points a week, you will consistently develop a more and more magnetic personality. And you can do this anywhere, anytime, anyplace. Waiting in line at the supermarket, sitting on the bus, whenever you see your next-door neighbor. If this sounds scary, start slow. Maybe one point a week. But just like physical exercise, the more you do this, the easier it gets, and the more outgoing and magnetically charismatic you will become. In no time you have a glow that is almost unheard of in today’s “me” society. And THAT will get you more money, love, recognition, and sex (or whatever it is that you want) than you ever thought possible.
write by Jarintzy Cardenas